I am a Holistic Interior Designer Feng Shui consultant and Life Style Coach but I am often called a “home whisperer”. I have always had the ability to hear the voice of the homes but after visiting hundreds of homes over 2 decades I have sharpen the skill. In this article I share 3 ways that homes speak to me with examples of client experiences. As a result, I will share how you can tune in to the important conversation that is going on in your own home.
Homes speak to me. No, not in the way that you and I speak, where sounds represented by letters string together and form words. But, rather in a deeper cavern of mystery called intuition. Intuition is where wider communication net is cast. While all of us are born with intuitive skills I was born with a high level of intuition which was strengthen by my training in Feng Shui. Feng Shui is the Chinese art of placement that teaches that there is an energy connection between us and our environments. Yes, homes do speak to me and I believe they will start speaking to you too o after I share 3 experiences of how my clients homes spoke to me.
One of the ways that a home speaks to me is through its vibration or “the vibe.” A brain researcher, Jill Bolte Taylor shares from her book, “Stroke of Insight” experienced this first hand when she had a stroke. She noticed that when a nurse would enter into her hospital room even though she had a smile on her face it was often not congruent with the vibes she was feeling similar thing happened to be when I visited a client that lived on a street named Hazard. Words have a vibration to them as well. The house was also directly across from an old graveyard. Instantly I started to hear the vibe more than what my client was telling me. “The vibe” was saying “danger and death.” But my client said everything was going great. I heard something different a voice that was saying no that is “Not true!” Mmmmm, I said to the home, be quiet, she says “things are fine.” It wasn’t until the 2nd visit that she finally told me how much everything in her life was in danger. Her business and marriage were about to end, if something didn’t shift for her. Now with everything out on the table we got to work making the shifts in her home that would help to bring some stabilization to her life. As a result life got better.
Another way a home speaks and is a bit similar the first one happens when I ask the home “what is not showing up” rather than what is, let me explain that.
My next client was a lady who had redecorated a Victorian home. She spent over $75K decorating each room. As went from room to room each of them was more and more picture perfect. In fact they had a magazine layout. Not one thing was out of place, the throws on the sofa and pillows were fluffed perfectly. The sofa table had the magazines all lined up like you see in the magazines. It was obvious that everything looked great but I kept hearing something very different. I heard each room say to me, “You are not invited in here. Don’t mess me up”. I asked her what she was wanting from me as everything looked perfect. She said it was because not one of her family members liked what she had done. No one felt comfortable or relaxed. The only room that the family liked to gather was in the kitchen that had not been redecorated yet. After I share with her what her home was saying to and explained that houses are homes that want to nurture and nourish the people that live in them. She got it. We then set about the home, room by room, starting with the magazines, pillows and throws and made them messy which made it more inviting to everyone.
The last experience I would like to share is that another way that homes speak is through color. My client Cindy’s and her husband bob had recently had built and furnished their dream home. Bob suddenly lost his job soon after they moved in. They wondered if there was a connection. The instant I walked through their front door I could see and feel what the problem was they were living in a blue world. Cindy quickly let me know that blue was her favorite or and she splashed it everywhere. There was a blue rug, a blue sofa and chairs blue on the walls and even blue counter tops in the kitchen Now blue is a beautiful color And has a calming and relaxing effect. But, too much of blue or any color can lead to an imbalance which was happening to my clients. It was Cindy’s husband Bob so relaxed that he never left the couch. After seeing more blue throughout their house, I turned to Cindy and told her that if you add one more thing blue in it, you going to kill your husband. A simple solution was to add a warmer color they choose burgundy red and only weeks later reported that bob got a new job. He must have gotten off that sofa.
While these are only a few of my experiences they highlight ways in which homes not only speak to me but speak to all of us. Why is it important to listen, because like my clients, the voice of your home provides important feedback that helped to course correct in areas of life, from jobs, to family harmony, health and much more? It can restore balance and harmony. Getting lives back on track. I believe that your Home are in trying to speak to you even desires to give you an energetic edge when you do it right. Thousands of years ago this was said best by a Sufi poet said that everything in life is speaking, is audible, is communicating, in spite of its apparent silence. I invite you to go home and listen for yourself your home’s subtle, yet powerful, messages.
3 Tips to hear what your home is saying to you
- Start to tune into the frequency of intuition which is the flash of insights that you receive but often dismiss. Begin to acknowledge these flashes of insights but saying out loud, “I just got a hit of intuition.” Then, write it down and act on it immediately as they tend to pass quickly.
- Start the conversation with your house by talking to it as it were a person. All things are alive with energy, even the bricks and mortar of your home. Therefore, let your home know that you are home when you enter it, and thank-it often for its protection and shelter that it provides day after day. Say good-night to it at night and good –morning when you wake up. Slowly these daily habits will begin to awaken the intuitive frequency where your home communicates to you.
- Ask your home what its name is? This was a game changer for me. It took a while before I received the answer but when it happened, the communication began to flow. . I can often hear its quiet whisper tell me when it is time to clean or fix something that needs attention. I can also, hear it say relax now and enjoy me.