Why do so many people start the New Year with a bang, but then so quickly quit on making good on their well-intended resolutions? While there are many reasons, Feng Shui reminds us that by creating an environment that supports our goals plays an important role in making those dreams come into fruition. Harmony on the outside, whether it is losing weight, or getting a new job is an inside job first. We have to start with the inner environment.
The main reason is because most of us are not taught to consider the inner environment which is our mindset. This is where harmony lifestyle coaching comes into play. Most of us start a goal from a reactionary desire, rather than a real heart’s desire. The real heart’s desire is only revealed through self-inquiry. The truth is that any real change takes work, discipline and, most of all, a deeper level of commitment.
Another reason that goals/dreams are not realized is that we begin them too fast or it isn’t simply the right timing, when we rev-up our energy up too fast – it burns out. Liken your goals and dreams to running a marathon and not a short sprint. It may take you a bit longer than you think and that is okay. Build your goals/dreams by making small and consistent daily action steps. Let your motto be: “Take it Nice and Easy”. Take 3 simple steps each and every day and before you know it, you are seeing results.
Another reason may be that there are parts of you that are not all in yet. You have to befriend the voices that are resistant to change. When we go too fast or too direct, we build resistance, allowing our inner voices of the perfectionist, critic and saboteur to turn-up their volume, making the task too difficult. Breathe into every new moment of this year and keep affirming your motto,” Take it Nice and Easy.”
I personally do not start goals in the first few weeks of January. I find that the time between New Years and Chinese New Year’s, is more of a gestation period, rather than taking action. It is better served to engage in self-inquiry to access the soul’s desires and to figure out which dreams are the best and what time is the best to start them before taking action steps. Practicing stillness, mediation, and self–inquiry will illuminate which changes are the most important from the heart’s perceptive. In the goddess tradition, this process is referred to as “being behind the veil.” The veil is that place within you that holds the answers of what would be right for you. The veil is part of the great mystery we are unaware of, and yet is calling to us. But when we are ready to listen to its voice, the answers are revealed.
Let this New Year begin in a new way by going behind the veil to discover your true hearts desires before taking action. This is the way of harmony, accessing the wisdom of the inner environment will lead you success. To get started, consider these 4 steps as you make your new year’s resolution in a new way, the way of harmony:
- Ask yourself: What am I willing to let go of, in order to create the space in which something else can take root and grow?
- The next step is to vision stream, which is a tool in which we simply allow the tool of imagination, much like we did as a child, and dream what would you love to be celebrating at the end of this next year. You don’t need the inner critic at this point because it is all about possibility.
- Then visualize your future self already at the end of the 2018 year celebrating all the accomplishments.
- And then, lastly, ask yourself this question: “What is my soul’s dream for this year?” Your soul is divinely connected to the bigger dream that knows what is right for you!
By communicating to the deeper part of ourselves and awakening heart and soul’s cooperation, you will strengthen your resolve and deepen your commitment to make good on the right dreams and goals for the year.
Prepare this year’s New Year’s resolutions in a new way! Wait until you hear the right answer and then surrender yourself to the sage advice of your soul’s voice as it reveals the deeper dream that you hold. If you do this, you will be in a soul-partnership, where all benevolent forces of the universe conspire to work with you. It is a built-in success plan and that will help you make good on your 2018 dreams.